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A Christmas Message

It’s important to remember not everyone is looking forward to Christmas. Some people are not surrounded by large families. Some have problems during the holidays and are overcome with great sadness when remembering the ones that are no longer with us. For many it may be the 1st Christmas without a loved one or many may not have anyone to spend it with and find themselves besieged by loneliness. We ALL need caring loving thoughts right now.

There are many amongst us that may be having health problems, mental struggles, social struggles, family problems, job issues or worries of any kind. Let people know you care.
A smile, a phone call, a card, a kind gesture; simple things that have the ability to go a long way.

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Continuing Education Event: Sexual Addiction and Partner Trauma: A New Perspective

 

Sexual addiction has become very prevalent in our culture- pornography, affairs, emotional attachments, just to name a few. While men who struggle with the addictions often have several treatment options to receive help, however their spouses are often left feeling alone, humiliated, and traumatized.

This Event will show a new perspective to treating couples that have an issue with sexual addiction and in treating the partner for trauma. LPC/LMFT CE approved; LCSW can request paperwork to submit to their organization to inquire about approval.

This Event is being led by Jim Grinnell, LMFT, ABCST and Julie Likins, LCSW, APSATS.

For more information or to register, please contact us at 918-270-4100 or fill out the contact form to register. Spots are filling up very quickly!

Children Turned Caregivers: A Support Group. Starting September 12th on Tuesday Nights

Children Turned Caregivers is an educational support group for adult children helping care for parents with Alzheimer’s or Dementia.

Have you found yourself devastated by a diagnosis of Alzheimer’s or Dementia in one or both of your parents? Do you struggle with the daily responsibilities, heartaches, and difficulties as you become a caregiver for them? Whether your parent is in an assisted living, nursing home, or home with you, this is a difficult transition. Come to a 6 week support and educational group run by Julie Likins, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, counselor, and previous medical social worker. As you learn more about your role and how to care for yourself and your parent, you can connect and share your story with others going through something similar. You are not alone or isolated!

Info:
Starting September 12th and concluding on October 17th. Every Tuesday night from 7:30-9:00.

$300 for this 6 week group. Must sign up and pay by 1 week before class starts to reserve spot. No insurance accepted.

Minimum of 5 people for group to start.
Max of 10 people.

If you would like to attend simply fill out our Make an Appointment Form or call us at (918) 270-4100 and we will reserve your spot.

Women’s Support Group- June 28th 2017 at 6pm

Do you feel betrayed and like there is no one to turn to? Well there are many other women who feel the same and benefit from support from one another. Join Stacie Casler at Crossroads June 28th 2017 at 6pm for an evening of encouragement and comfort for women who have experienced partner infidelity. To register, please call our office at 918-270-4100.

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Stacie Casler, LPC

Stacie Casler is a licensed professional counselor and a certified Christian life coach. She earned her Masters of Arts degree in Professional Counseling from Liberty University. Post licensure to the present, she has continued her education in the areas of infidelity, betrayal, and sexual addiction. She understands the trauma a spouse experiences when learning of betrayal and the devastation that occurs within the betrayed, the betrayer, the couple relationship, and the family. Stacie is certified by the International Association of Clinical Sexual Addiction Specialists (IACSAS) as aClinical Sexual Addiction Specialist (CCSAS) and is a candidate for certification by Association of Partners of Sex Addiction Trauma Specialists (APSATS) as a Certified Partner Specialist (CPS). Stacie provides both counseling and coaching services in the area of sexual addiction and spousal trauma.

For a wife struggling with trauma due to the discovery of your spouse’s infidelity or sexual addiction; life coaching assistance can be done by phone so a client can receive help no matter where she lives.

In addition, Stacie works with individuals and couples with many types of personal, relational, and professional concerns. Counseling or coaching relationships often are the missing piece to overcoming major life struggles or finding a new level or excellence in personal pursuits. She provides a safe environment and an objective perspective to explore changes that can be of benefit in meeting your personal growth goals.

Having entered the counseling profession after many years in the business world, Stacie’s earlier resume included corporate accounting, real estate sales, therapeutic services to children and adults with a variety of challenges, as well as other entrepreneurial endeavors. As a result of a broad spectrum of professional experiences, she has accumulated a wealth of relationships with many types of people of all ages which greatly assists new clients with finding comfort in a counseling relationship.

Life coaching work can be done by phone. The client is not required to be in the immediate area or come into the office.

Understanding and Treating Sexual Addiction: Comprehensive Training for Clinicians and Pastoral Specialists

October 12-15th, 2016

Tulsa, Oklahoma

This 4 day course meets the educational requirements for the Certified Clinical Sexual Addiction Specialist and the Certified Pastoral Sexual Addiction Specialist through the International Association of Certified Sexual Addiction Specialists, the leader in the field for certifying and training specialists. During the 4 days you can earn 28 clock hours through the National Board for Certified Counselors (NBCC), NAADAC, and the NASW.

The first portion of this course provides the foundation for treatment in a variety of settings.  During the second half, the clinicians will receive advanced clinical training and the pastoral/ministry specialists will receive advanced pastoral sexual addiction treatment training appropriate to the work setting.  the first two days are together, the last two days are in separate groups.

Topics Include:
⦁ Sex Addiction 101: Confronting the challenges
⦁ Neurochemistry: ADHD & other comorbid disorders
⦁ Trauma model treatment in the sexual addict and spouse
⦁ Working with family members of sexual addicts
⦁ Building Blocks for Your Wall of Recovery
⦁ Sex addiction, hypersexuality, problematic sexual behavior
⦁ Working with spouses/partners of sex addicts
⦁ Spirituality in Recovery
⦁ Working with sexually addicted adolescents
⦁ Same sex attraction and sexual addiction
⦁ Spouses/Partners of Sex Addicts and their families
⦁ Experiential treatment for sex addicts and spouses
⦁ Sexually addicted and traumatized children
⦁ Female sexual addicts
⦁ Stepfamily dynamics in sexually addicted families
⦁ Satir treatment methods and addiction
⦁ Couples in recovery
⦁ Tools of recovery
⦁ Distinguishing problematic sexual behavior from  addiction/compulsion
⦁ Narcissism and personality disorder features in addicts
⦁ And many, many, more…

Recommended reading prior to attending training
Stop Sex Addiction – Dr. Milton Magness
The Betrayal Bond – Dr. Patrick Carnes
Don’t Call it Love – Dr. Patrick Carnes*
Spouses of Sex Addicts: Hope for the Journey – Richard Blankenship (with Melissa Haas, Joyce Tomblin, Debbie Whitcomb, Heath Wise)
Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal – Dr. Barbara Steffens & Marsha Means
Ready to Heal – Kelly McDaniel
Pure Desire – Dr. Ted Roberts**
Breaking Free – Russel Willingham**

*Clinicians track
**Pastoral/Ministry track

Course Faculty Members Include:
Richard Blankenship, LPC, NCC, CCH, CCPS, CCSAS
Dr. Barbara Steffens, LPCC, CCPS, CCSAS
Dr. Mark Richardson, CPSAS

Note: not all faculty will be present at each training.  Additional faculty will be brought in as needed to insure the best possible training.  All of our main faculty members have a minimum of 10 years experience in the field.

Schedule:
Wednesday: 12:15 – 8:15
Thursday and Friday: 9:00 – 5:00
Saturday: 9:00 – 3:30

For more information or to register by phone call 470-545-4380. Email at info@sexaddictioncertification.org

Renee Avery, LPC

Renee Avery is a Licensed Professional Counselor. Her passion is to see people walk in freedom and develop the ability to bounce back from life’s challenges.

Renee provides individual therapy for adults struggling with anxiety, chronic medical conditions such as cancer, divorce recovery, grief and loss, end of life issues, addictions, codependency, binge eating disorder, anger issues, stress management, and parenting. She also works with clients to facilitate healthy behavior change in areas such as smoking, eating habits, and exercise.

Renee received her Master’s Degree in Counseling Psychology from Northeastern State University. She has a background in health sciences and has counseled in medical clinic and hospital settings. She was also an educator for 13 years.

How Depression Brought Sheila Walsh Closer to God

Best-selling author and Bible teacher Sheila Walsh shares how she came to fully experience the transformational power of Jesus.
by  Brooke Obie

If you or someone you know is suffering with this issue or others contact: Crossroads Counseling and Consultation, CrossroadsofTulsa.com
918 270-4100

Last week, best-selling author, singer and dynamite Bible teacher Sheila Walsh rocked the house at the Houston, Texas stop of the Women of Faith conference, Unwrap the Bible. Walsh taught from John 4:1-26, the story of Jesus and the Samaritan woman at the well, and her message to the 6,000 women in attendance was simple but so profound: “The Good News will never be good news until you know that God knows all of your bad news.”
Like the woman at the well—and every other person on earth—Walsh had some bad news. Twenty-three years ago, she left her job as the co-host of The 700 Club show on Christian Broadcasting Network and checked herself into the psychiatric ward of a hospital. That seemed like bad news because having clinical depression as a Christian, and particularly as a ministry leader, is misunderstood as a problem of faith by many in the religious community, instead of a serious medical issue with many medical solutions.

“If you have a brain tumor, you can show people an x-ray and they can see something physical and they’ll pray for you right away,” Walsh told Guideposts.org.
“But if you have a mental illness, where they cannot see the lack of particular serotonin or whatever you need in your brain to be able to function well, people often put that down to a lack of faith and say, ‘If you’re a believer, you can do all things through Christ that strengthens you.’ You wouldn’t say that to a child who fell off a swing and broke her leg. You wouldn’t say, ‘Get up and walk, because you can do all things through Christ.’”

For Walsh, checking herself into the hospital not only got her the help she needed, it helped her learn how unconditionally loved and accepted she is by her Creator.  On her first morning at the psychiatric ward, her psychiatrist asked her, “Who are you?” Walsh gave the psychiatrist her name. “No, I know your name,” he responded, “but who are you?” The co-host of the 700 club, she answered. “No, no, no. Not what you do. Who are you?”
“I actually don’t know,” she had to confess to him. “And that’s why you’re here,” the psychiatrist told her.

By the time she was ready to leave, her psychiatrist called out to her from his office window, “Sheila! Who are you?” She was finally able to answer: “I’m Shelia Walsh, daughter of the King of Kings.”

Walsh says that really understanding that truth about who we are is what transforms Christians into the kind of people who have a heart for God and for other people.  “It’s not enough to be a 3rd grade teacher or mother of four or somebody’s wife, because all of those things can be gone in a moment. What we need is to hold onto our eternal identity. And when we get that, then I think we are able to transform how we are with other people. But if you’ve never received grace yourself, it’s very hard to extend it to other people. So I think we need to talk less and listen more. We use the Word of God, which is supposed to be healing, we use it as a weapon against one another.”

That’s why Walsh used the woman at the well (an outcast who had been publicly shamed and cast aside by the community) in her Unwrap the Bible message, to help us see each other, ourselves and the struggles we’re dealing with—whether it be mental illness or even sin—through Christ’s eyes.
“I think one of the things we misunderstand about the heart of the Gospel [is that] we categorize sins,” she says. “We look at someone who is a prostitute or someone who has committed adultery and we label them a certain way. We don’t think that our gossip or our overeating or whatever it is is as great a sin. But the reality is, if it had only been one person on the planet and all we ever did was speak one little lie, Christ would still have had to die. Our sin weighs the same before God. And I think if we begin to understand that we’re not the Good News, Jesus is, then I think we’ll be able to open up our hearts.”
“Most of us haven’t been married 5 times [like the woman at the well] but what I saw in her was how Christ pursues us in the midst of our most hopeless moments and loves us back to life. And so that really began to resonate and I actually began to see myself in this woman. Our circumstances were different but our needs were exactly the same.”

Through her renewed relationship with Christ, Walsh was able to not only accept her diagnosis, but to thank God for it and allow her testimony to be a beacon of light for other people who may be struggling in the same way.

“There are other people like me. I’ll be on medication for the rest of my life because my brain simply does not produce enough serotonin for me to function as the woman God called me to be. But what I used to think of as shameful, I no longer do. I take that little pill every morning with a prayer of thanksgiving that God has given help to those of us who need it that way. I always mention it a little bit [when I teach], so that anyone who’s listening can know: You’re not alone.”
And that’s good news.

Sheila Walsh’s new book, Loved Back to Life, is available now..

Crossroads Counseling and Consultation
CrossroadsofTulsa.com
918 270-4100

Men’s Pure Desire group

Crossroads Counseling and Consulting has a new Men’s Pure Desire group starting September 17. The group will meet each Thursday from 6 – 7:30 p.m.   The group is open to all men who struggle with pornography and sexual addiction issues. The purpose of this group is to present the perspective & techniques for overcoming the addiction. The group will be led by Scott Thomas LPC, LMFT.

Group Information

  • September 17-November 12 (8 weeks)*
  • Thursdays , 6-7:30pm at Crossroads Counseling & Consultation
  • Cost: $50 per group ($400 total for 8 group sessions)**
  • Workbook cost $25
  • Please register through the Crossroads Counseling & Consultation office (918-270-4100) as soon as possible.

*The group is open ended and will be presented in 8 week segments.
** Payments will be expected to be paid in 4 week segments or $200.