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What is Counseling?

I will address what “counseling” is not. Counseling is not “someone getting in your head”. Counseling is not someone doing something to you to produce a predictable result. Counseling is not witchcraft. Counseling is not laying on a couch and being psychoanalyzed. (at least not in my office.) Freud was a pioneer, but the therapeutic world has evolved. Counseling is not evil or a sin.

Counseling, however, does happen in everyday situations. And it can come in a few forms: it may come in the form of a friend or an online support group. It may come in a general conversation in a grocery store line or at the gym. It can come in sitting on the shoreline and listening to the waves and your own heartbeat or watching a sunset.

Counseling involves the concept that every individual has needs that, over time, come to be expressed in a myriad of emotional Bx’s and /or negative coping skills. At some point, these behaviors become counter-productive on a daily basis or at the least, uncomfortable to the point of interfering with relationships, job performance, causing a lack of control in an area on a daily basis, or being affected by someone who displays these tendencies. These are merely a small portion of opportunities when a person may want to seek counseling.

In a counseling session, a therapist will provide a broad-based assessment of a client’s current emotional, behavioral, and relational condition. In a counseling situation, the therapist should be informed of the client’s current medications and the effectiveness and/or side effects of the medication(s). The therapist should be open, approachable, and honest about his/her ability to address the client’s concerns. Needless to say, one might look for the therapist who optimally portrays the ability to provide a comfortable, stable, safe place to “park your soul” for a while.

An involved therapist believes in celebrating the complicated individuals we have become while assisting to unravel what complicated relational situations we have created on the way. Counseling helps the counselee understand that there is comfort in knowing that someone can speak to their situation with authority. And, for the sports fans, counseling is a participation sport. The therapist should suggest “homework”. Let’s face it: if we lived in a perfect world, we would have accomplished the developmental tasks which would have prevented ours and others’ current lack of coping skills in the first place. -So a little practice is necessary to obtain the maximum bang for one’s counseling buck. “Homework” can come in the form of reading an applicable book, writing in a journal, and practicing some specific coping skills appropriate to your situation. One should enter into a counseling relationship (Yes, it IS a relationship.) with the idea of committing to at least 15 appointments. And, news flash: YOU ARE WORTH 15 APPOINTMENTS!

There are four basic steps to recovery: 1. One-on-one counseling, 2. Group (12-step Group, Codependency Group, Al-Anon, Al-Ateen, Grief recovery, Overeaters Anonymous, Divorce Recovery, Church, A book club, etc…), 3. Having some friends for accountability, 4. Having a spiritual resource.

Counseling is as effective as someone wants to make it. If you participate, it can also be a positive, life-changing experience for you on many levels, your family, and all the people whose lives you touch daily.
For more information, please contact me or one of our highly experienced, qualified therapists at Crossroads Counseling & Consultation.

PainPals

Chronic Pain Group (Pain Pals) will begin Wednesday, October 3rd.  Hours will be from 4:00-5:30.
My group leading experience includes six years leading the Anxiety Group at the Mental Health Association of Oklahoma.  I have led a therapy group for adult victims of sexual abuse.  I have led processing groups at Brookhaven and Laureate and Aftercare groups for persons in recovery from alcohol and drug dependency.
In introducing me to prospective clients, please emphasize my 20+ years of counseling experience with individuals, families, pre-marital, and married couples.
I am a lifelong learner and am now a candidate for LPC in the state of Oklahoma.  Therefore I am able to offer lower rates than other counselors on staff.  Please assure them I will be able to confer with colleagues as needed to best help them.
Basically, although working on licensure, I am no novice in the field.  I have a compassionate heart and am thrilled at the opportunity to work with persons needing care.
Mary L. Call, M.A.
LPC Candidate
Crossroads Counseling & Consulting
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Announcing the all new Crossroads Psychiatric Center- Open House March 2nd, 2018

We are excited to announce our new Psychiatric Center at Crossroads Counseling. Late last year we completely remodeled our existing facilities and added a half dozen members to our staff! In order to better serve the medical and mental health community we now offer psychiatric medication management for both children and adults. We are honored to add to our staff Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist Dr. Michael Saliba and Andrew Carter, PA-C.

Our clinic will provide SAME WEEK appointments for psychiatric medication assessments, offering morning, afternoon, and evening appointments. We accept all major insurances including Blue Cross, Cigna, and CommunityCare starting March 1st, 2018! We appreciate all you do to help advance the health of our community and we can’t wait to see you on March 2nd!

Continuing Education Event: Sexual Addiction and Partner Trauma: A New Perspective

 

Sexual addiction has become very prevalent in our culture- pornography, affairs, emotional attachments, just to name a few. While men who struggle with the addictions often have several treatment options to receive help, however their spouses are often left feeling alone, humiliated, and traumatized.

This Event will show a new perspective to treating couples that have an issue with sexual addiction and in treating the partner for trauma. LPC/LMFT CE approved; LCSW can request paperwork to submit to their organization to inquire about approval.

This Event is being led by Jim Grinnell, LMFT, ABCST and Julie Likins, LCSW, APSATS.

For more information or to register, please contact us at 918-270-4100 or fill out the contact form to register. Spots are filling up very quickly!

Children Turned Caregivers: A Support Group. Starting September 12th on Tuesday Nights

Children Turned Caregivers is an educational support group for adult children helping care for parents with Alzheimer’s or Dementia.

Have you found yourself devastated by a diagnosis of Alzheimer’s or Dementia in one or both of your parents? Do you struggle with the daily responsibilities, heartaches, and difficulties as you become a caregiver for them? Whether your parent is in an assisted living, nursing home, or home with you, this is a difficult transition. Come to a 6 week support and educational group run by Julie Likins, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, counselor, and previous medical social worker. As you learn more about your role and how to care for yourself and your parent, you can connect and share your story with others going through something similar. You are not alone or isolated!

Info:
Starting September 12th and concluding on October 17th. Every Tuesday night from 7:30-9:00.

$300 for this 6 week group. Must sign up and pay by 1 week before class starts to reserve spot. No insurance accepted.

Minimum of 5 people for group to start.
Max of 10 people.

If you would like to attend simply fill out our Make an Appointment Form or call us at (918) 270-4100 and we will reserve your spot.

Women’s Support Group- June 28th 2017 at 6pm

Do you feel betrayed and like there is no one to turn to? Well there are many other women who feel the same and benefit from support from one another. Join Stacie Casler at Crossroads June 28th 2017 at 6pm for an evening of encouragement and comfort for women who have experienced partner infidelity. To register, please call our office at 918-270-4100.

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A Christmas Message

It’s important to remember not everyone is looking forward to Christmas. Some people are not surrounded by large families. Some have problems during the holidays and are overcome with great sadness when remembering the ones that are no longer with us. For many it may be the 1st Christmas without a loved one or many may not have anyone to spend it with and find themselves besieged by loneliness. We ALL need caring loving thoughts right now.

There are many amongst us that may be having health problems, mental struggles, social struggles, family problems, job issues or worries of any kind. Let people know you care.
A smile, a phone call, a card, a kind gesture; simple things that have the ability to go a long way.

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Stacie Casler, LPC

Stacie Casler is a licensed professional counselor and a certified Christian life coach. She earned her Masters of Arts degree in Professional Counseling from Liberty University. Post licensure to the present, she has continued her education in the areas of infidelity, betrayal, and sexual addiction. She understands the trauma a spouse experiences when learning of betrayal and the devastation that occurs within the betrayed, the betrayer, the couple relationship, and the family. Stacie is certified by the International Association of Clinical Sexual Addiction Specialists (IACSAS) as aClinical Sexual Addiction Specialist (CCSAS) and is a candidate for certification by Association of Partners of Sex Addiction Trauma Specialists (APSATS) as a Certified Partner Specialist (CPS). Stacie provides both counseling and coaching services in the area of sexual addiction and spousal trauma.

For a wife struggling with trauma due to the discovery of your spouse’s infidelity or sexual addiction; life coaching assistance can be done by phone so a client can receive help no matter where she lives.

In addition, Stacie works with individuals and couples with many types of personal, relational, and professional concerns. Counseling or coaching relationships often are the missing piece to overcoming major life struggles or finding a new level or excellence in personal pursuits. She provides a safe environment and an objective perspective to explore changes that can be of benefit in meeting your personal growth goals.

Having entered the counseling profession after many years in the business world, Stacie’s earlier resume included corporate accounting, real estate sales, therapeutic services to children and adults with a variety of challenges, as well as other entrepreneurial endeavors. As a result of a broad spectrum of professional experiences, she has accumulated a wealth of relationships with many types of people of all ages which greatly assists new clients with finding comfort in a counseling relationship.

Life coaching work can be done by phone. The client is not required to be in the immediate area or come into the office.

Understanding and Treating Sexual Addiction: Comprehensive Training for Clinicians and Pastoral Specialists

October 12-15th, 2016

Tulsa, Oklahoma

This 4 day course meets the educational requirements for the Certified Clinical Sexual Addiction Specialist and the Certified Pastoral Sexual Addiction Specialist through the International Association of Certified Sexual Addiction Specialists, the leader in the field for certifying and training specialists. During the 4 days you can earn 28 clock hours through the National Board for Certified Counselors (NBCC), NAADAC, and the NASW.

The first portion of this course provides the foundation for treatment in a variety of settings.  During the second half, the clinicians will receive advanced clinical training and the pastoral/ministry specialists will receive advanced pastoral sexual addiction treatment training appropriate to the work setting.  the first two days are together, the last two days are in separate groups.

Topics Include:
⦁ Sex Addiction 101: Confronting the challenges
⦁ Neurochemistry: ADHD & other comorbid disorders
⦁ Trauma model treatment in the sexual addict and spouse
⦁ Working with family members of sexual addicts
⦁ Building Blocks for Your Wall of Recovery
⦁ Sex addiction, hypersexuality, problematic sexual behavior
⦁ Working with spouses/partners of sex addicts
⦁ Spirituality in Recovery
⦁ Working with sexually addicted adolescents
⦁ Same sex attraction and sexual addiction
⦁ Spouses/Partners of Sex Addicts and their families
⦁ Experiential treatment for sex addicts and spouses
⦁ Sexually addicted and traumatized children
⦁ Female sexual addicts
⦁ Stepfamily dynamics in sexually addicted families
⦁ Satir treatment methods and addiction
⦁ Couples in recovery
⦁ Tools of recovery
⦁ Distinguishing problematic sexual behavior from  addiction/compulsion
⦁ Narcissism and personality disorder features in addicts
⦁ And many, many, more…

Recommended reading prior to attending training
Stop Sex Addiction – Dr. Milton Magness
The Betrayal Bond – Dr. Patrick Carnes
Don’t Call it Love – Dr. Patrick Carnes*
Spouses of Sex Addicts: Hope for the Journey – Richard Blankenship (with Melissa Haas, Joyce Tomblin, Debbie Whitcomb, Heath Wise)
Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal – Dr. Barbara Steffens & Marsha Means
Ready to Heal – Kelly McDaniel
Pure Desire – Dr. Ted Roberts**
Breaking Free – Russel Willingham**

*Clinicians track
**Pastoral/Ministry track

Course Faculty Members Include:
Richard Blankenship, LPC, NCC, CCH, CCPS, CCSAS
Dr. Barbara Steffens, LPCC, CCPS, CCSAS
Dr. Mark Richardson, CPSAS

Note: not all faculty will be present at each training.  Additional faculty will be brought in as needed to insure the best possible training.  All of our main faculty members have a minimum of 10 years experience in the field.

Schedule:
Wednesday: 12:15 – 8:15
Thursday and Friday: 9:00 – 5:00
Saturday: 9:00 – 3:30

For more information or to register by phone call 470-545-4380. Email at info@sexaddictioncertification.org